As you learn more about the benefits of a prenuptial agreement, you may come to the conclusion that it's an absolute must before tying the knot. While you're sure that it's the right thing to do, your soon to be spouse may not have the same idea.
It's one thing to be interested in a prenuptial agreement, but another thing entirely to ask your spouse to get on board with the idea. Remember, you can't force your partner into signing a prenuptial agreement.
Once you realize that a prenuptial agreement is something you want to consider, it's time to discuss the finer details with your partner. Here are a few tips you can follow to ease the stress that's often associated with this conversation:
- Never issue demands: "I need you to sign a prenuptial agreement." "If you don't sign a prenuptial agreement I am not sure we can get married." "It's silly of you to say no to a prenuptial agreement." All of these things can come across as demanding. They also kick off the conversation on the wrong foot, thus creating tension. Rather than issue demands, ask your partner to have a serious conversation with you about the benefits of a prenuptial agreement.
- Be honest about your reasons: Don't tell your partner you simply think it's a good idea to create a prenuptial agreement. Explain your reasons for wanting this. Explain your fears about the future.
- Ask questions: Don't do all the talking yourself. Let your partner share their feelings, as this will give you a better idea of how they want to proceed. Also, ask questions along the way, as this helps clear the air on anything you don't understand.
- Take your time: Yes, you have a lot happening leading up to your wedding day, but that doesn't mean you have to rush through the process of creating a prenuptial agreement. It's best to take your time, even if this means breaking up the process into several conversations.
If you're interested in creating a prenuptial agreement, discuss your feelings and thoughts on the future with your partner.
Once you're on the same page, you can then learn more about what to include in the prenuptial agreement and how to create a document that's mutually beneficial.